Hey Ladies, Get Out and Play Golf
This one is for all the ladies out there that have been interested in golf, but have been too chicken to try. Or maybe you see golf on TV and tune in only because you have gone several days with insufficient sleep and this is a sure fire way to get in a nap. I am here to tell you, you are missing out. Lucky for you, it is never too late to pick up the crazy addicting game called golf.
I am 41 years old and have only been playing golf regularly for about 3 years. I grew up in a small North Carolina town and my only exposure to golf as a child was when The Hardy Boys would be preempted on Sunday nights for some golf tournament. As you can imagine, this was excruciatingly painful as I anticipated my weekly date with Shaun Cassidy all Sunday long. The first time I picked up a golf club, aside from the occasional Putt Putt putter during summer trips to the outer banks, was in college. My roommate begged me to take golf with her for PE because her boyfriend played, and she needed to learn. I relented, and so it began. At the time, I was still harboring bad feelings towards golf because it was the prime reason my relationship with Shaun never took off, but after the first day of class, I realized there were lots of boys in this class and golf owed me. It was a four week class and I suffered through with my roommate only to put down my borrowed classroom clubs to turn my back on golf for a few more years.
I was in my twenties when I met my husband, and like every stupid girl in a fresh relationship, when the subject of golf came up, I barfed up, “I took golf in college.” Next date, the golf course. I borrowed some clubs and sucked it up for him. We played a couple of times a year, but he was in law school so time was limited, thankfully. We got married, had a couple of kids, kids grew to full time school age and suddenly I found myself back on the course for date time. We would be out there for what seemed like forever. I thought we would be nearing the end, and we were on hole #3. Seriously? Here is where it all changed. We met friends and started playing couples golf. Beer, dinner, and fun with friends was now involved. We even gave out prizes. And I’m not talking about ones for birdies and pars. We got prizes for first ball in the water, first lost ball and first swing and a miss. This was more like it. I started out riding in a cart with my husband and before we even realized it, the girls were teaming up to play against the husbands. Everything started to change when I was on the course with the girls. Namely, my husband wasn’t standing over me trying to “help” me. Now this was fun, and I went from only tolerating 9 holes to wondering how we got through 18 so fast.
Now I have a standing Friday game with the girls and lost Sunday nights with Shaun Cassidy have been long forgiven. I still occasionally play with my husband and son, but have found the way that golf works for me. And that ladies, is the secret. If you try to play with your husband, but find yourself just getting irritated at him, find some girlfriends that might be interested. Maybe you are the opposite and that is great too. My point is, give it a try and not just once. You don’t have to go out there and be a professional golfer, but you do need it to be fun. And believe me, you will get the stink eye from the men whose tee time is right behind yours. They think they own the courses. But what’s the worse that can happen? They act like asses and you let them play through. I know so many women that won’t play because they are so intimidated by the men. Times are changing my friends. So what if you hit like a girl. I have yet to run into a man on a golf course that can hit like Annika, a girl. Get in the game.
Great advice Susan. I’m going to have my wife read this. Keep up the good work!
I am laughing out loud! Ahhh…Shaun. Was so dreamy.
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Everything is better with beer. And girlfriends.
Ohhhh how I can relate. My favorite gift was when I received a ball retriever. I always considered it a good day on the course if I came back with the same ball that I started with and I loved finding more to add to my collection of balls in my bag!
Thanks for your article Susan!
You are right on top of your game. Maybe not golf, but definately writing. Go Girl! I’m proud.
Go Mom!
I think the stink eye should be a punishable offense on Mother’s Day.
Great article and insights…right on point!
Oh boy. Where to start. Stink eye……the best advice I got from my three brothers who play golf (two of whom are single-digit handicappers) was to play the psyche game with guys who engage in stink-eye tactics. Here’s what they told me to do: take out my driver and go stand on the side of the tee box when the guys are teeing off. Just stand there, arm propped on my club, and watch all cool and confident and casual. Stare even. My brothers tell me it’s nothing more than a testosterone thing run amok – trying to impress a gal with a lot of overwrought manliness and mastery, otherwise known as killing the ball. Literally. The guy’s wheels usually come off and the stink eye business stops. Works just about every time I deploy the tactic. When these fellas are done duffing, shanking and otherwise mishitting their balls (no pun here), my brothers have told me to step up to my tee and smack that little mother into kingdom come (a.k.a. the fairway) like I usually do. In my world that’s a 180-200 yard drive – not Annika material, but respectable – and further than a lot of stunk-eye fellas manage. After that all you have to do is sink a clean ten-footer and the boys will behave. Swear.
Annie! I like your style, and your brothers’! This is what I call the “Anything you can do, I can do better” approach. I LOVE IT!!
Great post Susan 🙂
Great article…resembles my past and start to golf. I am one of the lucky gals that plays with her husband 3 times a week and enjoying every moment. We place side bets to keep the game competitive…we love to gamble and the most he loses is $10.00 (yes, I typically win). I will take your advise and search out some ladies to play golf, again I enjoyed your blog.
I agree that golfing is great for ladies too. I turned 40 this year and just took up the game. My husband and I love to play 9 together once a week. It is quiet time away from the kids, and we get some exercise too. I am still working on finding friends to golf with, as most of mine have yet to pick up a club. Time to find new friends in a foursome!